• KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    7 days ago

    i’m sorry blacksmithing? I mean it’s cool as fuck, don’t get me wrong, but have you seen that shit? it’s the LEAST sexy hobby by far.

    Also, traveling is not a hobby, stop pretending it is. That’s like saying veganism is a hobby.

    anyway, my main hobbies consist of playing minecraft or factorio like an autist, fucking around with linux, or philosophy, so i probably score, somewhere…

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      7 days ago

      What’s with the anti blacksmithing sentiment? Most people just find someone’s genuine passion to be an attractive quality, wherever their interests lie.

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        nothing wrong with it, it just isn’t sexy or hot. The only “sexy” part of it is one of the less involved parts of it.

        You still have to do a lot of cleanup and build work after the fact.

        I mean i literally said as much in the comment lol

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      I think it’s more of what kind of people women are imagining as a blacksmith. They’re probably imagining a rugged man in their 30s/40s with practical muscle definition and enough financial stability to have the time/land for their own personal forge.

      Likewise Travelling is just a proxy for “a ton of disposable income, and willing to take their partner to nice places”.

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        7 days ago

        i guess from that perspective it makes more sense, but i feel like you could easily throw something like “yard work” in there it would be equally as strenuous and status based lmao.

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            6 days ago

            yes but now your suburban home looks good and you’re proud of it. Seems relative equivalent to blacksmithing to me. Especially considering blacksmithing is actually the precursor to weapons manufacturing.

            Gardening is close, though i think different enough to warrant being different.

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      7 days ago

      My wife loved the idea that I was into wood cutting. What she didn’t realize was when I said woodcutting, I meant I studied the blade and practiced chopping wood with my anime sword.

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      7 days ago

      I wonder if hobbies here may mean what people talk about primarily, because some aren’t hobbies unless it’s all you do or something. Like arguing online.

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          Without knowing the prompt they replied to and how the scoring scale worked, its hard to take much from it.

          Its like we took the useful and personal responses from each woman, randomized them and included outliers and things from other categories, and spit them out in a useless pile.

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            I’ve looked up the original article and some other articles, and one thing I’ve noticed is the ones here on lemmy focus more on what is highest vs lowest, while some articles focused on the comparison between men and women.

            They had ~800 respondents, 48% identifying as women. They asked the same question, which I don’t know the exact question but the gist was what percentage of women found this hobby attractive. There are some disparities in perception, usually towards the more attractive than men think.

            For instance, one article pointed out men assumed 7% of women found MTG attractive, whike women responded with 28.5%. There were also charts that focused on the largest disparities:

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      I’ve always made the distinction that traveling is just going to average tourist stuff, beaches, camping, hiking, stuff like that, while traveling as a hobby is more like actually immersing yourself in the culture

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        yeah i understand the difference, but like i said, i feel like it’s calling veganism a hobby. If you like travel to the point where you live in various different places of the world at different times, you don’t travel as a hobby, you travel as a lifestyle.

        It just doesn’t feel right to call that a hobby to me. Is socializing also a hobby at this point? That seems like a weird thing to consider a hobby.

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    7 days ago

    “Arguing online” is unattractive? It’s actually one of the more relevant signs of intelligence if one can state their points coherently. In this 3-part essay I will…

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    Hang on, the real story here is more than 3 in 100 find Manosphere attractive

    What the actual fuck is that?

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      Could be similar energy to women who proudly want to be trad wives. And those who think that because they had it shitty, others should also have to go through that.

      On another note, I wonder what the divide looks like for women who start with that mindset naively and then end up a) getting lucky and not getting burnt by that mindset (and stay naive about it), b) consider it a rite of passage or the way things should be (and continue supporting it despite no longer being naive about it), or c) change their mindset after enough wake-up calls. There’s probably also some that start out as b) but then changes to a c) when they see the same shit happening to their daughters or nieces or other loved ones and decide that’s too much. At least I’d hope so.

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      It’s actually below the lizardman constant.

      In 2013 a Public Policy Polling poll found

      four percent of Americans believe lizardmen are running the Earth", which Alexander attributed to people giving a polling company an answer they did not really believe to be true, out of carelessness, politeness, anger, or amusement

      https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slate_Star_Codex

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    New tinder profile: I’m a traveling blacksmith archer hiking today in your town. I’d love to cook you dinner and serve it on the portable table I handcrafted. I’d probably cook something from my own recipe book, hope you don’t mind.

    Meanwhile pornhub is >30% women, but only 10% ticked the ‘porn’ box???

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      As for the porn; there is a big difference in consuming porn, and having porn as a hobby. Similar to the difference of driving a car and having cars as your hobby.

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    Why is makeup so low? To me that’s super attractive if a guy likes wearing makeup because it shows that he is secure in his masculinity and probably isn’t a misogynistic asshole, but maybe I’m just into feminine men?

    (Also I’m not saying that if guys don’t like wearing makeup then they’re insecure, it’s just that makeup is a visible thing so it’s easier to tell that they’re most likely more secure)