Explain. Why would a realisation be dawning just now?

Is this where the term “dogging” comes from? From going out to get a hot dog?

Same for water buffalo

Your dad sounds wise. Knowledge like that still isn’t widespread, and back then even less so. There are no role models teaching/showing/demonstrating this in real life or in media that I have come across.

Glad it’s worked well for the original OP.

I still remember reading in the book “Thinking Fast and Slow” and the research they presented on happiness. Apparently their data averaged out to: 1. baseline happiness when single, 2. big spike up in the first year of marriage, 3. Settles at a permanent level below the baseline (from when single).

Da fuck dey doing ova der

I’d wear the short back to front.

Relating individualism to selfishness is a leap you’ve made, not me. I haven’t even referred to being child-free as a negative anywhere, just pointing out the variety of stances and opinions to OP and I’ve actually emphasised that everyone’s situation is different.

You’ve argued against some logical leap/straw-man in your mind rather than anything I’ve said.

Extra Fabulous has always been top tier.

It’s such a huge and personal decision. You shouldn’t really make a decision based on how other people describe their experience. I saw this on reddit ages ago and this is is probably the single best summary of the experience I’ve seen.

I can describe my experience, but you need to understand people’s biases. My bias is that I always liked kids. I enjoyed playing with nephews and nieces. I now work with children and have 2 of my own kids. The decision for children doesn’t come about in a vacuum. I had a wife who wanted kids too. I had a stable job and felt ready. Even then I had no idea what I was in for. Kids put major demands on your time, money, energy, patience and marriage. I have one child which some might call “a difficult child” and one who is very demanding (as expected for a “normal” child). This is definitely life on hard-mode. Children really force you to face your own issues and get over yourself. It has been great for me. I wouldn’t change a thing about my “difficult” children. Giving them a good life and catering to their needs is an undescribable satisfaction and fulfilment in itself. I’m learning more than I’m teaching them. I wish work didn’t take so much of my time and energy so I had more for them. I asked my wife if she wanted to work full-time, because I would happily stay at home or work part-time and spend more time with the kids. I can’t get enough of my kids and the time you get at each stage of their life flies by in an instant.

That’s starkly in contrast that with large proportions of Lemmy (and Reddit) which have quite vocal child-free populations with a very individualist ideology. Everyone’s circumstances and biases are different.

Edit: People also tend to be more open about defending their current position rather than expressing regret (i.e. had children and hated it, or didn’t have children and regretted it); both of these populations exist and tend to be quieter because of social stigma.

“Hey! We can’t let them steal that. I wanted to steal that!”

“Hey bro,let’s watch porn together. Nothing wrong with that, right. Wait, where are you going? There must be something medically wrong with him. I should ask Lemmy.”

I’m curious what the upper limit is before the tea leaves have released all they were going to release. I routinely male a 500ml flask of tea with a single tea bag. Could I male a litre?

I’m a Linux noob and OpenSUSE has been great as a daily driver and gaming machine. Would highly recommend.

I’m glad I never uninstalled ICQ

I’m too old to be up to date with American internet culture. What app are the cool kids using now?

Content that is potentially polarising, allows for virtue signalling, allows judgement of a romantic relationship, meant to be lighthearted…this has a lot of elements to be very successful as internet posted content.

Only ways I can think of is adding in something about sex, weed and /or a dog.

Podcasts have been great. Sometime I go with a TV series episode on the phone on the side. If you really want to motivate yourself for a task then set a rule that you’re not allowed to play an episode except for when you’re doing that task. Now if you want to hear the next podcast episode, you’ll have to do the dishes or ironing.

Richard Feynman?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ZK8Z8hulFg