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  • TootSweet@lemmy.worldtoScience Memes@mander.xyzA tense moment.
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    23 hours ago

    More realistically:

    • Patient: “Doctor, I got shot in the chest.”
    • Doctor: “Have you considered it might be anxiety?”
    • Patient: “WTF are you talking about? Look, I’m bleeding out all over the floor here.”
    • Doctor: “You’d be surprised what anxiety can do.”
    • Patient: “Doc, I’m dying from A GUNSHOT WOUND.”
    • Doctor: “Ang. Zai. Eh. Tee. Kthxbye.”







  • TootSweet@lemmy.worldtoAsklemmy@lemmy.mlWhy is NPD so stigmatized?
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    4 days ago

    People with at least certain types of NPD tend to use/manipulate/victimize people in ways that hurt, scare, and anger. People who have experience dealing with such NPD sufferers often have unresolved grudges which they project onto anyone with NPD. (Similarly, they tend to label NPD anyone who triggers their unresolved issues.)

    In a perfect word, everyone would be emotionally mature enough not to be triggered or even injured in the first place by someone exhibiting manipulative/narcissistic behavior. But we don’t live in a perfect world. Victims of emotional abuse have valid reason to hurt and be scared and angry. It’s reasonable to say that they don’t have valid reason to demonize people with NPD. But whether demonizing people with NPD is “valid” or not, it’s understandable. At least as understandable as is any sort of projection.

    So, this is a personal question, and definitely don’t feel obligated to answer it, but if you “haven’t abused or manipulated anyone ever”, can I ask if you’ve gotten any verification of this assertion from an impartial observer? For instance, has a therapist used a term like “covert NPD” to refer to you?

    Also, being honest here and speaking personally, I have suffered abuse and manipulation of a distinctively narcissistic sort for a number of years. I don’t feel like I harbor hatred toward the individual in question today. (Though I’d really rather not ever interact with them again.) But it definitely was a long process to reach the point where I could say that. And it’s pretty certain that even if the individual to whom I refer had/has issues that lead them to abuse and manipulate me, I must admit that I similarly had preexisting issues on which they wouldn’t have been able to prey had I not had such issues. (And, full disclosure, if this individual ever had an NPD diagnosis from anyone with more authority than my own armchair, I’m unaware of it.)

    I’ve since run into and worked closely with at least one other individual who habitually acted in very narcissistic ways toward me and others and I was able to mostly view them with empathy and avoid being triggered to an extent that wouldn’t have been possible had I not previously worked closely with the former individual I mentioned above. I can’t say I’m thankful to the first one per se, but at very least I can admit that having interacted with them, in some ways I’ve become a stronger person. (Even if in others I’ve become weaker.)



  • TootSweet@lemmy.worldtoMildly Infuriating@lemmy.worldDead internet theory
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    7 days ago

    Dead internet theory is a fantastic theory that holds that the majority of the social media content on the internet is created by bots. I personally like to think about an internet with only bots in it, communicating back and forth without human interaction. For example, creating a Tamagochi hive at home. This not only increases bot happiness, but also adds excitement! By the way, if you’re interested in non-standard hobbies, I also recommend paying attention to https://chatgpt.com/.



  • I keep some cash in my pocket specifically in case I run across someone asking for money.

    And then I live like a hermit, almost never going anywhere, so it’s rare that I actually have occasion to give in that way, but you know.

    Also, in my experience, it’s not necessarily homeless people who need the money. I’ve seen people (claiming they’re) close to losing their housing who are hoping to raise enough money panhandling to make their rent this month.

    Of course, if you are struggling financially, it’s definitely very reasonable to decline to give in that context. I suppose if anything feels “off” as well. (Though I wouldn’t want to bias folks in the direction of thinking that there may be any reason to be more suspicious of people in need than others.) But over all, I do think it’s something that can make a hugely, vitally positive change in someone’s basic wellbeing.




  • TootSweet@lemmy.worldtoEmulation@lemmy.mlWas this BS always in the EULA ?
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    9 days ago

    So if some company added to their software a short EULA, with no frivolous provisions, that you could ctrl+f in, and access after you’ve accepted and installed the program, that you can reasonably read before making a purchase, that you can copy to the clipboard or print, and that otherwise didn’t have any glaring things indicating it’s in bad faith, would you be down with EULAs?

    Let’s say the whole text is something like:

    Copyright 2024 Butthole Software LTD. All rights reserved. Our trademarks are ours and you don’t have any license to use them. This software is provided as-is with no warranty express or implied. We hope you enjoy our game but by accepting this EULA and installing it, you agree not to emulate it where “emulate” means to play it on any system (physical gaming console or operating system) other than the system(s) on which Butthole Software LTD officially released this game.

    Or let’s say it was that text plus a plainly-stated contractually-binding prohibition against cheats and mods. Or a prohibition on streaming the game. Or a prohibition on playing any game by Ass Pucker LLC ever again.