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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • I don’t think the gender reveal party adds to that in any way. It doesn’t matter to the kid and everyone else in the kids life is going to still have the anticipatory moment of finding out their assigned birth gender even if it’s just the parents/doctor telling them. The gender reveal party is such a minor thing years down the line; it’s not like a wedding or something. It’s like saying that theming your kid’s 2nd birthday party Bluey and them deciding they don’t like Bluey when they turn 10 is going to be such a bummer.


  • NIPT is now standard care in the US. It is covered by insurance and offered to every pregnant person. I didn’t say everyone gets it, just that it’s increasingly used. Something like 25%-50% of people do it and it’s growing in popularity. You haven’t answered if that would take the creepiness out

    Most names are definitely gendered. If they weren’t, changing your name when transitioning wouldn’t be so incredibly common. You might think they’re unnecessarily gendered, but they are currently gendered. You also haven’t answered if you’re ok with expectant parents and parents of infants telling people the kid is a girl or a boy without the party.





  • People do often take a blood test on Mom which will include some fraction of fetal DNA. They can do a blood test where they just check if there’s any Y chromosome (sneak peek) or they can take a blood test which is to check for chromosomal abnormalities which also happens to tell you the sex chromosomes (NIPT). These happen much earlier than you can tell via looking at genitals on ultrasound and is increasingly becoming how people find out the sex of their baby.

    People very often say they are having a girl or a boy and give them a gendered name. Do you have an issue with that?






  • I wonder if it’s really hard to recruit shop teachers now. If the trades are so desperate for people, would it be more lucrative to go into the trades or teach at a school. Also I think most states require a college degree plus credentials to teach at all. So if you worked in the trades until you’re 50 and then wanted to go into teaching, it’s like 5 years of schooling before you can do that. Schools have a lot of trouble getting and retaining male teachers at all at this point and I wonder if that contributes too. If you don’t see male teachers and there’s a stigma attached to men wanting to work with kids, it isn’t going to be something boys aspire to.



  • Do people feel like you can’t say if it’s a girl or a boy before they’re old enough to express some preference? That seems to be the thing people pick on with gender reveal parties but that doesn’t really make sense to me if you’re cool with “It’s a girl. We’re going to name her Alice.” without the party. It’s not like the party is usually hyper fixated on gender roles. You cut some cake or pop some balloons during a pretty normal family party. Sex chromosomes/genitals are one of the only unique things you really learn about the baby before they’re here that isn’t generally considered bad news. I guess we could have height percentile parties?