• hazeebabee
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    24 days ago

    I get that your anger probably comes from the frustration of a bad relationship. I also want to encourage you not to use bigoted terms. Just refering to them as your ex’s family, or ex’s fucked up family would have gotten a similar message across.

    It really undermines your point, draws focus away from what youre trying communicate, & makes you look like a biased and unreliable narrator.

    I hope that ex is out of your life & you’re in a happier place now.

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      24 days ago

      I thought it was dumb the first time I ever heard it.

      They are literally the picture perfect stereotype of white trash I call it like I see it.

      And no, we have two kids so she will never be out of my life. I am however in a happier place. Well actually the exact same place but now without her narcissistic gaslighting and constant put-downs :)

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        24 days ago

        Ah co-parenting with an ex can be super tricky. It sounds like at least a half win though, you aren’t in the same house any more :) congrats on the break up, I know getting out of toxic relationships takes it’s toll

        & I get that the word is part of your vocabulary, I can’t change that, just encourage some reflection. It’s a term that’s been used against me so I’m perticularly sensitive to it. Here is a link to an article in case you or someone else is interested in the history of the term.