I got it working! Very valuable and good definitions.

I agree the term might be “blame and shame”-y because, as the author notes themselves, toxic masculinity positions one in a me vs. the world, aggressive mindset.

I like the terms the author suggests in their edit:

Instead, I refer to traditional or stereotypical constructions or norms of masculinity, and if I want to uses more critical language, I refer to patriarchal forms of masculinity.