I don’t think I’ve spoken to a woman on Tinder who is actually interested in dating. The majority of them don’t ever reply, the few that do put zero effort into the conversation and often just want money. Once in a while a woman agrees to meet then just doesn’t. What the actual fuck? How do you guys handle this bullshit?

Before I get called an incel 1000 times, I am already doing everything right. I’m in therapy, I exercise every day, I eat healthy, I have diverse interests and several friends. I have paid people to review my profile and conversations and everyone agrees I am doing everything right.

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    11 months ago

    I think the biggest problem is that dating apps are so impersonal. I know that isn’t super helpful but it’s nature won’t change imo. The advice I would offer is take breaks, especially when You’re starting to think like this. Just get off them for like 2-4 weeks and when you’re feeling up for it pick them back up. It’s gonna take a good bit of time so time off is crucial if you don’t wanna burn out.

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      11 months ago

      Apps are impersonal, but several of my friends have told me that getting hit on is uncomfortable for them so real life isn’t an option.

      Taking a break isn’t really a good option either. Opportunities to talk with a decent woman are so exceedingly rare that I can’t risk missing one.