• saltnotsugar@lemm.ee
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    7 months ago

    (Shows up in latex body suit and a whip) “Uhhhh…no I didn’t make a mistake. I totally love…pot…s.

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      No judgement, ceramics is for everybody!

      Honestly a latex body suit seems easier to clean too, though I have no experience with that. Just seems you could rinse yourself with a hose after.

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    7 months ago

    Ok good.

    In the bdsm context choking isn’t safe (and no blood choking isn’t safe either, just less dangerous), and collaring generally refers to a level of commitment that shouldn’t be introduced in a “for beginners” class

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      In college (a long time ago), people used to show up to parties wearing a collar to advertise that they were dtf.

      I miss the simple usage of it, it’s kinda weird to me how it’s become a bdsm wedding band.

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        It’s always been a variety of things. But the bdsm wedding band thing is old. Like pre AIDS leather old. And I’m not trying to imply it’s even the only modern use of a collar even in the bdsm community, but the term collaring does imply commitment far more than the act of wearing one does

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          Ok. I am the last thing from a scenester so I’m sure you know better than me.

          I do think it’s kind of a bummer that I can’t get that in low-stakes pet play b/c everybody has built it up so much.

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            Ok yeah that’s weird. I’ve used them in scene without commitment and in my marriage as very much commitment. You just communicate about it. And ironically I’d never suspect a pet player is using it as a sign of a lifestyle dynamic because that’s a very different context. It’s us lifestyle power exchange folks and non-pup leatherfolks that use them that way.