Or, alternatively, what did you do to another person which got you blacklisted from their life?

    • hazeebabee
      15·
      1 year ago

      Im glad you recognized the manipulation & got her out of your life. Emotional manipulation can be so hard to spot.

    • Rob T Firefly@lemmy.world
      12·
      1 year ago

      You’re not alone in having this sort of story.

      Speaking as someone else who survived an emotionally abusive relationship years ago (with gaslighting so successful that I had to start secretly recording our conversations on my phone to make sure they really happened the way I remembered and not the different story she would tell me later), successfully cut my ex out of my life and worked on myself, and am now happily in a truly wonderful and healthy marriage to an amazing person, congratulations on getting out.

        • Rob T Firefly@lemmy.world
          4·
          1 year ago

          It’s an ongoing process. Therapy helps, as does a truly understanding partner.

          When I started dating again, my past crappy experience ended up contributing to my now-wife and I hitting it off so well:

          • We both happened to have been through Some Shit before as these things go.
          • We shared understanding and sympathy about what it’s like to be manipulated and treated poorly by toxic people.
          • We were both confident about what we were and were not interested in, and were comfortable asserting ourselves about our own needs as well as listening and accommodating one another’s.
          • We were also both living independently and staying afloat on our own, so if our dating didn’t work out ending the relationship wouldn’t have cost either of us our home/job/etc. (In my abusive situation this had not been the case.)