Oh is this adhd? I just thought all my friends had deserted me. I think I better call that shrink. Was meant to get a better referral from my gp last week, but it was his last day and he fucked nearly everything up, aside from all the scripts I asked him to write. I called him a drug dealer. Maybe that wasn’t cool.

Nice. Imperfections are what makes us human anyway. All the very best for your future wedded bliss.

I should take my own advice too. I’ve never thought to do it.

Exactly. Why pretend to fit into a society which marginalises anyway just for trying? Fuck that! We’re here and we’re queer and we’re not buying their bullshit.

I just walked to the shops and back and yes. No hurt. Will be fine at work.

There must be a youtube simple solution to peeling eggs. I crack the top and bottom and roll which loosens the shell, but it’s still a fiddly picky job. That was taught to me by my son’s great grand mother.

I think they’ve covered a lot of marginalised groups which weren’t previously. I agree though they should just outlaw vilification based on any percieved difference. Oh and make the spread of information which could cause others to vilify a crime as well. Freedom of speech like every other right has to be balanced with responsibility with not using it to cause other’s pain.

Yeah, I’ve been paying for my recent neglect in money and pain just recently. Last week was hell, today though felt like it did when I was getting a bunch of tatts, bearable pain. One more session and I’ll have saved my teeth from falling out as long as I look after them.

Typical, I had to escalate my resignation to upper management as my boss hadn’t bothered to reply to me. Such a lazy spineless pos. He had sent the letter on to upper management. A simple cc would have been easy. At least I don’t have to rely on him to get my separation certificate. Not sure what to do next, I want to have the book thrown at them but I also want to put it all behind me. My best thought is to focus on the future and accept that I had a music and dj career far and beyond most people’s dreams. Let the people left there deal with the bullshit themselves.

Easy day, dental hygienist appt, wasted trip to the bank, my first hiccup using my preferred name. Whatever, these things take time and I have the rest of my life to sort the beauraucratic crap out. Working in the moring at 630 am. It’s nice becoming a morning person and I finish work before afternoon traffic. The cats always get me up pretty early but I’ll need an early night. I’m tired of saying onward and upward, I just want a peaceful life. This endless search for more, better, easier is a load of capitalist crap. No walk, had an afternoon nap and glad I decided a rest day was in order.

Yay! Congrats, nice nails too!

I also 😂

Fantastic! Thanks so much, you brought the derp out in the little cat person.

My feet have weird new sore places from all the walking in my new from the hips gait. It’s affirming my gender transition while at the same time meaning I need to wear different shoes today to see if they combat the soreness a little. Wish me luck, I did 9ks yesterday but need unsore feet for work later in the week.

Good problem to have when you have those nails imo. <3

https://elek3chestvo.bandcamp.com/album/some-junk-tapes-from-outer-space

Indie rock / punk from Kyiv.

These are rad.

Image is white and tabby cat lying down behind a black kitten yawning.

The world is set up for people to not question anything. It’s footy or netball, bbq or baking. I never fit gender stereotypes and still refuse to as a trans woman honestly. I get bullied by some trans woman about my voice and my hrt and tell them to stop being so condescending. I’ve always been this way I just have the right hormones now. I never thought it meant I was trans until I read that it did and tried leaning more into makeup and drag such. That gave me euphoria. My psych suggested I go on hormones, did my informed consent and to live a life I’d always dreamed about seemed incredible. But it never really meant, oh cool high heels and frocks. It meant being biologically female and to have real female emotions and to finally realy be “one of the girls” at least it does now. Now I just wear what I feel like, masc or femme according to common perceptions. But it’s still pretty androgenous. People bullied me to see I needed a new style too. Fuck that, I have always worn band tshirts and such, why should I change that? I have a lot of skirts and a few super femme tops though to be fair. Make up is a pain in the butt, expensive, bad for skin and takes ages. It’s good for events and of course it makes me feel special, but for everyday when I don’t need to do anything about it, why waste time and money? I don’t need to pass so the cis world can treat me like one of their own… That’s a bit like admitting defeat.

I think some trans women dislike that because they never expressed their femininity until it was bursting out of them. People are always people though and want to tell you what to do.

Hold the eyeliner steady by pushing your hand against something then move your eye across it. I get it right sometimes but it’s hard. that caddy looks perfect for my bathroom honestly.

Love the make-up caddie. I wish I had room in my tiny bathroom vanity for something like that. I have some organisers though which are ok. So nice of you to work with her eyesight, that’s good parenting imo. Actually applying make-up being long sighted is difficult I find, as I am long sighted as is normal for someone my age so I hope she can do it well enough to feel great.

Thanks a lot hun. I’m passionate about trans, gender diverse, non binary and intersex rights and quite a few other social justice causes and I’m doing something about it most week days. I don’t care what people think really, because ultimately it’s none of my business. Being made fun of for the way I look is something I’ve always had to deal with but the cis world still think it’s ok to make fun of us and that needs to change. I figure those people are probably bigots in other ways as well and need help, not my anger. I think non binary and other gender diverse people have a harder time though because it’s not been as visible as being transgender has been for as long, of course, people have been non binary since forever as well. I hope you did something special for your special day on Friday!!

Even some allies still seem to think of gender being binary. Its not about who’s suffering most of course, when one of us gets bad treatment we all suffer and we’re all united under the gender diverse banner, always! It’s not always appropriate to call enbys trans because there’s not always a transition into another hormone biology. So I’m careful about using the word trans to describe everyone with some kind of gender non-conformity. I don’t quite understand because it’s not who I am, just like I never understood what it was like to be a man or straight.

Even my mother who is a staunch supporter of myself and another trans family member got annoyed when I told her my son’s half sibling stated to me she was a demi-girl because sometimes she (her chosen pronouns) is a boy. That she confided in me about though and hasn’t really talked to anyone else, was great of course, I love that people I know now have that outlet. I wish I hadn’t told mum though.

I dress pretty androgenous and its likely no one else noticed. I didn’t want to create a fuss, I just left an uncomfortable situation and felt good about knowing when to leave. I didn’t say anything at the time, as it would have been seen as inappropriate in that particular venue, it was an AA meeting and culture war stuff is not discussed. It’s tiring trying to educate people honestly. I only bother explaining things to allies. Most people don’t read my pronoun badge or see the fucking trans flag patch on my sleeve because they haven’t been educated or just don’t care.

So proud of you for living your truth, we still live in one of the best cities for being ourselves and living our truths and I’m thankful of that every day. Sometimes I wish I had a tshirt which read, no one knows I’m transgender lol. Like I said, I’m proud of it and see not being my gender assigned at birth as a very rare gift. Cis people don’t get to spend years thinking about being cis, but we have a unique other layer to our identities.

Oh and I too extend the hand of friendship, and thank you for reaching out.