charcoalhibiscus

Yeah, that’s been my experience - that the people who are the least empathetic are the people who are having the same problem and trying the “tough love” approach on themselves to attempt to overcome it. They’ve shut off their compassion sensors because they can’t afford to apply any to themselves, so it’s not there for others either.

Yeees me too.

There are a couple nail art ones already! They just need more people and posts. Search for “nails”.

In many emotional regulation frameworks (DBT, mindfulness) they talk about the recognition and pause as the first two steps. Noticing you’re feeling a certain way, and then learning to take a quick pause from doing anything - “one, two, three”. That gives you a small space within which you can then learn how to respond differently than instinct. Probably she’s not old enough to have learned those two steps yet. (Many adults haven’t either!) So maybe start there. Just “recognize” first, then “pause” after she’s learned the first one. It may take awhile, and that’s ok. Once she’s learned them they will be very powerful for many different things.

I miss bakingfails and the nail polish community :/

Most of AITA was fanfic too - just a deeply improbable amount of twins, pregnancies, weddings, and twin pregnancies at weddings. Once I stumbled upon a megapost that was all the ones about food, though, and it was great, because nearly no one bothers to make up a drama about lasagna.

The one silver lining was it brought us the glory that was the “everything in this sub is fake” punchline story, if anyone else remembers that one.

Alas! Yeah I saw a fair bit of that go by but mostly ignored it; my area is fairly diverse politically so there were people yelling into the void and also people who weren’t. I definitely wouldn’t recommend it for just like, hanging out and chatting with people, but they’ve been pretty good at least where I am about recommendations. Maybe that does vary by how crappy your neighbors are, though.

If it’s home-related (or services) I’ve had decent luck with Nextdoor.

Bless you, stranger

It was super good. Definitely the type of game where you can’t just spam attacks, you really need to be strategic and think about it, which I appreciated. And it’s a great couch coop, like others have said.

What’s the best/least obnoxious way to suggest to communities who haven’t brought up migrating yet that they should consider it?

There’s like 3 subs that if they migrated over, I’d happily just stay here forever and never go back.