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Cake day: March 14th, 2024

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  • TLDR; the non-monogomous community has a generally lower tolerance for the toxic social norms common among cis-het men. A man that finds himself impatient with his success in dating might consider that it makes sense for non-men to be cautious of all men, and he might need to do the work to recognize he might be the one that needs to learn what others expect of him to be found attractive.


  • Edit: I have since realized that I am unsure on the calculation of tax burden is calculated for the chart.

    I am skeptical of the representation of the data. My sense for ways to skew data is set off when making statements of segments of population when the segments are not comparable.

    I would need a better understanding of the calculation of the values reported to be able to justify that the top 20% are split into smaller groups than they’re being compared to.











  • Piercings and nail polish really are so excepted now for men by the general public, that it is super easy to get away with that.

    Shaving was a huuuuuuuuuuuuge step for me, as my facial hair was a masculinity mask of sorts. NGL, I cried through it. I wish I could snap my fingers and switch between not/having a full beard again.

    I did a similar thing with slow transition with doing more femme presentation. Would love to hear how things have gone since so much can happen in the span of months, ie how long it’s been since this was first posted


  • Honestly, dating apps can be really good for this. Although polyamorous, I state in my profile that I am also open to just friends and my interests. Two of my best friends I met 4 years ago via Tinder. There are plenty of folks looking for friends on them. It especially seems like that for OKC.

    Edit: most of my trans friends have been on a local discord community or through people I met on it.


  • I am living it, and I am living my best life.

    Agender/enby with a nebulous connection to gender at best. For me, I will be ever in transition for as long as I’m alive and adapting. And I take comfort in that.

    But for a more serious answer:

    Between the milestones of recognizing that I am trans and accepting myself - mental health care (including HRT), support from my friends and partners, and a whole lot of introspection. I’m grateful to have the privilege of all that. And I wish it was more accessible.



  • I’m curious if this visualization is like my own. I can very vividly imagine an apple but then the web of thought expands out, and I’m near simultaneously visualizing different colors, shapes, varieties, artistic representations, states of being eaten or degraded, and viewed at different angles, lighting, and settings in rapid succession, so that all the images overlap in a blur of what it is that’s meant by apple.



  • Like mentioned elsewhere, folks with menstruation cycles are well known to show exacerbated ADHD symptoms with the fluctuations in hormones.

    Progesterone made my ADHD a lot worse. Second biggest reason I stopped taking it once getting up to where I wanted to be in top growth. (first being that I was constantly ravenously hungry)

    Going back on spironolactone has made it better though. Missing my evening doses of that and estradiol will throw me off a bit the next day.


  • They’re words that have been having less and less meaning to me over the last couple years.

    To me, they’re the extremes of what society says are the inconsistent rules. I have been increasingly drawn to queerness, and the refusal to align with a single of these in favor of being one’s self.

    I have been more in touch with aspects of both since transitioning. Same for shedding a lot of the toxic expectations of both. And that has only highlighted that it’s a socially enforced binary.