Don’t feel guilty if you choose to go stealth; the first and greatest duty you owe to the LGBTQ+ community is to look after yourself, as a member of that community. Queer existence is so politicised that simply existing is a powerful act of rebellion, but that fight can wear on a person. You don’t need to be open trans to be an asset to the community, because people who feel able to be visible doing so is one of the ways the community has your back. We share the load.