• Smk@lemmy.ca
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    11 months ago

    When I see a gay men acting up like the stereotypical gay, I feel like they are acting it up in the same way when I see a very macho hetero man, or a very stereotypical feminine women. I don’t feel like they are genuine, it almost feel scripted to me. Could it be that it feels more genuine to them ? I’m projecting my bias here obviously.

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      11 months ago

      To whatever degree stereotypically gay or macho affects are performative, they are so because they can help an individual feel safe within and a part of their communities and general surroundings. Acting in these ways can be but certainly is not always in conflict with their own individual notions of self.