I couldn’t learn this in teenagehood nor early adolescence so I have to learn it now. I don’t want to go into details of my upbringing, but think about a kid living on the streets, growing up only knowing war and survival

  • lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    9·
    10 months ago

    You don’t always need to be doing productive/constructive things. Rest and leisure are valuable too. But if you insist, I suppose the first step would be to come up with a list of goals you want to accomplish.

    • TheLemming@feddit.de
      OP
      4·
      10 months ago

      Thankyou, my internal child agrees. I’m exhausted. Since a couple months I have a job for the first time where I feel safe, which is awesome.

      I’m sad that I’ve never been able to play, like I don’t even know how.that is … I wish I could also have emotional memories of playing like a kid on the playground

      • fiat_lux@kbin.social
        5·
        10 months ago

        Of course you’re exhausted, you must have worked extremely hard to find that stability. I’m truly sorry you were not able to enjoy play as a child like all people deserve.

        Play is something humans do to regenerate and learn. It’s still a very good thing for you to learn to do now, maybe even one of the most constructive uses of your time - you have already identified it as a gap in your experience and that you’re tired.

        Was there any play you wanted to try as a kid but weren’t able to? It could be a team sport like football, or drawing, or chess, or building, anything. Collaborative, solo, competitive, or all of them. Now is a great time to learn to play and to rest, and it will do you good even if it’s not currently something you consider ‘constructive’ right now. You can even help other kids in your community with similar experiences while you do it, if you like.

        Good luck! It will feel weird and new at first, but there is a lot to learn from play and you don’t need to be a kid to get the positive effects.

      • lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        2·
        10 months ago

        You could make that a goal. Go sneak into a playground (after hours, ideally in a non-creepy manner) and swing on a swingset. Or go to a dog park and run around with some puppies. Also ideally in a non-creepy manner.

        Or maybe don’t take my advice. I feel like I had one good suggestion and the rest are all bad.

        Maybe a pick-up game of basketball? Or try to get real good at shooting free throws on your own?