Why are we continuing to use biased language?
The term feminism does essentialize the advocating for the equal rights of women (this is good actually), but it is also important to note that while this is a feminist community, this community is not about feminism. This community is about men and their specific liberation from oppressive gender roles and stereotypes.
The reason I’m not a feminist is because while feminism says it advocates for equal rights for women, in actuality it’s advocating for more power for women.
When women are unfairly discriminated against (which is most of the time), fighting for more power for women is equivalent in outcome to fighting for equal rights. But in those situations where men get the short end of the stick, feminism is supremely unconcerned.
Feminism is not concerned with equality. It is concerned with better outcomes for women. It’s a subtle but important difference. And it means it’s an ideology that as a man I can mostly support but cannot subscribe to. Feminism does not care that the vast majority of workplace deaths are men. Feminism does not care that boys are failing school at unprecedented rates. It’s not their issue, and that’s fine, but don’t pretend feminism is for everyone. BLM is sympathetic to Indian rights movements but it is not their issue. LGBT+ groups are sympathetic to unions but it is not their issue.
My struggles as a man are not feminism’s issue. And that’s fine. But we shouldn’t pretend otherwise. We need our own group, separate from feminism.
Feminism does not care that the vast majority of workplace deaths are men. Feminism does not care that boys are failing school at unprecedented rates.
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My struggles as a man are not feminism’s issue.I think you’d be surprised. The vast majority of those who actually cover these topics are feminists, doing academic feminism.
Academic feminism, much like any other “-ism”, has little connection to real life and what everyday adherents of the “-ism” believe or do.
I don’t factor academic feminism into my thinking at all, because it’s so far removed from today’s reality on the ground. Feminism is what the majority of feminists make it.
The majority of feminists are at least drawing from feminist works (even if the knowledge comes secondhand). When progress is made, it is made at the academic level.
I disagree. I think progress is largely made at the ballot box and on the airwaves. Academic feminists are not scientists in a lab discovering new things. They’re also not leaders of the movement. They’re just academics. Over time, some academic points do filter to the broader movement but it’s a trickle compared to the action of everyday feminists.
Feminism in itself just wants to achieve true equality in all regards for Man and Women (and people outside the norm)
Its what we all need.
If it’s about equality, then it shouldn’t be a word that has clear preference for one sex.
No, because the word itself is not the problem. You think it’s a problem because it starts with “fem” and immediately think it’s all about female power when it’s not. I suggest learning more about it before drawing these conclusions.
Words matter.
Right, and words have meaning.
Well, it’s important to recognize that the term is distinct from egalitarian. The term feminism does essentialize the advocating for the equal rights of women, but it is also important to note that while this is a feminist community, this community is not about feminism. This community is about men and their specific liberation from oppressive gender roles and stereotypes.
The “the word implies women superiority” argument has to be the proverbial dead horse that gets beaten with a stick, when it comes to feminism, at this point…
Then, you should probably be able to respond to it easily instead of dismissing it.
I don’t see a point to me doing it yet again, when it has already been many times over, in better words than I could, in this one thread and beyond. The men’s lib movement this community is about is by definition, if not outright feminist, very feminist adjacent and aligns on many views. This is not the “men’s rights” movement.
For what it’s worth, if you are actually asking for my take and not an info dump, IMHO, the semantic argument is rarely very strong. In practice, tons of the societal issues women face align with men’s, for example on their very opposition on traditional roles.
I like “feminist adjacent community for men”. I’m a fan of that.
I don’t like “feminist community for men”.
95% of the time, anyone concerned with men’s struggles should agree with feminist takes.
I just don’t want us to be beholden to the 5%.
My point was pretty much that I don’t feel like semantics are really beholding anything. There’s just no end to following that logic. The other commenter accused me of being ashamed of defending men’s interests because of my position. Isn’t this literally being ashamed of calling myself feminist cause I disagree with the extremist minority? If you’re 95% of a feminist, you’re pretty much a feminist. There’s disagreement even internally to pretty much every movement out there. Not everyone agrees on everything.
That “pretty much” is huge imo. It gives us wiggle room to disagree without also attempting to win the rest of feminism over to our side.
If semantics isn’t a real problem, why do you oppose the changing of semantics so desperately to the point of insulting/diminishing those that discuss it?
You’re literally part of a “men’s right group” while simultaneously using the literal phrase for it as an insult because of Toxic Feminism.
The first step of an inclusive society that listens to each others issues is already being failed by your ideology that is asking it of others. The feminist movement that inherently shits on men’s rights are in no way representative of an inclusive group of left minded people. Recently, these groups are being labeled as the new right wing online pipeline for women.
It seems like you want to have and eat cake here.
If it is such a common problem, why is there no common inclusive response?
Re-read my last comment, follow the link, read some definitions. You either missed or skipped the point I made on my previous comment that we are not on a “men’s rights group”. You’re kind of illustrating my point for me here. Feel free to point out at the “insult” I made, I’ll gladly retract if there is genuinely one. I can’t find it.
You’re misreading my response. The “men’s rights group” is the insult I’m talking about.
You are ashamed to participate in advocating for men because of Toxic feminist perspectives I’m addressing.
There are many communities for the problems woman face, this one is for man. Whats the problem?
There is a history behind the term and why it is used.
Here’s the way I think about:
The real objective is, or should be, equality in all things that are not explicitly biological in nature and equitable treatment even in those. Thus, none of us should be excluded from the halls of power or anywhere else based on our biology even as things like health care are tailored to our biology.
That would seem to argue against a place called “men’s liberation.” The reality, however, is that we have only nicely begun the journey. Both men and women have much baggage to discard by virtue of both historical and current cultural and legal norms.
Those cultural and legal norms have imposed different behaviours, thought patterns, and roles. Men and women have different sets of baggage to deal with, so it only makes sense to find our allies in our journeys among those who share a common burden.
I am a male. I have rarely been excluded from women’s liberation groups when I try to learn and have occasionally found that my perspective was appreciated. I would hope that the same thing is happening here.
I hope that we are all working toward a more equitable and more egalitarian society, but we won’t get there by ignoring the real differences between men and women that have been imposed by culture and law. We cannot fix what we do not acknowledge.
“If you are used to privilige, equality feels like a threat”
I could write a lot more on how and why, but this sums it up nicely.
Not really.
Hey! I just happened upon this post and saw a few of your comments. It sounds like you have experienced some stuff that isn’t fair, and it makes sense to feel hurt. That is not an uncommon experience.
Do you have someone to talk to about all that? It legit helps.
Not trying to push you to do anything you don’t want to do btw, just checking in on ya :)
Non feminist male communities tend to devolve into misogynistic places. What exactly is your problem with feminism, except the name?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminism
“Feminism holds the position that societies prioritize the male point of view and that women are treated unjustly in these societies.”
It’s not about equality if it favors one sex over the other.
You never see feminists complaining about the draft or female employment in sanitation industries, for example.
Trying to conflate “feminism” with “equality among the sexes” is just a subversive tactic used by feminists to fool men into thinking they care about injustices towards men.
They don’t. In fact, most of them proudly laugh if anyone even mentions something along the lines of “injustices towards men.”
Sure. From my point of view man and women both struggle from the same societal structures, be it in quite different ways. Feminism addressees those societal structures from the perspective of women and in more recent times other marginalized groups. While sure it’s not a lens specifically developed to view male issues, for me personally it’s been a helpful tool to empathize with women in general and to question societal or interpersonal structures (like man has to be the provider for the family or what the hell is family anyway?). You have a rather antagonistic view on feminism, maybe based on your own negative experiences or maybe influenced by certain media bubbles. So you might not find the discussions in this community very helpful.
Oh look, he’s 95% of the way to the general incel stuff. Say “family court” next!
I’m interested in discussing men’s issues with feminists. I don’t have nearly as much interest in hearing the view points of anti-feminists. Red pill and MRA spaces are decidedly boring because anti-feminists have taken over the discourse.
In short, I support labeling this a feminist community.
What would you prefer and why?
There’s already a word, egalitarian.
This doesn’t specify you’re discussing issues around gender though.
Personally I am not bothered by the word feminism but in general I find this type of minute language critiquing to not be very useful. I care more for the meanings and intentions behind words than their etymology. Feminism is a word that is almost universally used to mean egalitarianism regarding gender, and it has a long history and deep literature in support of that idea. For those reasons, I don’t think there will be consensus around changing it but if there was I would go along with it. As I said, it doesn’t seem like a very important issue here.
Agree, it is a waste of energy to argue semantics.
You need to read some Bell Hooks brother
It is the most useful word to filter out all those right wing MRAs and misogynistic chuds.
Feminism is also by far THE biggest, most global and well known movement about gender equality there is with a rich tradition from the mulditude of contexts it flourished. It would be short sighted and a step back for mens liberation, to not acknowledge and build on top of that. The way womens / queer liberation intersects with mens liberation is also wonderful.
