What you’ve said personally made me think of a lot of things. My dad was my primary parent of 2. My mom was around a tad while being an alcoholic. My parents divorced when I was 3 and I don’t remember much of it. I do remember my father being essentially a single parent intercut with times we were essentially forced to go to our mom’s place, likely as she went off with her boyfriend or did whatever. I don’t remember my dad getting any harassment for being the only one there but I do remember a lot of compliments on how well-behaved we were in public.

Now that I am a dad I do get a lot of people asking if I am babysitting or such. It’s heartbreaking but I never heard anyone ask that to my dad. It’s like no, they are my kids too. Turns out that when you have kids it’s a choice by two people, not one. The sooner society comes to accept that the better. Overall there is a large stigma around men and kids. If a guy ever goes to a park and just sits down near a playground, you’ll get asked “Ah, which one is yours?” and if you go “Huh, mine? I don’t have one.” you’ll find that a lot of the time people will become defensive and perhaps even call the cops. Men can’t even be in public around kids anymore if they don’t also have one. If they do it’s like “Ah must be babysitting for mom.” such a shit standard.