My father, who convinced me (16 m) at the time to move in with him instead of my mother when they moved. All 3 of the other siblings stayed with my mother. He then kicked me out the week I turned 18, a week into my senior year. Since then he stays in touch only to speak with his grandchildren (now going on 4 kids). I have never been anything but opportunistic and positive in our interactions. Regardless he still acts like I am a burden to talk too. Am now 37, and finally getting to the point I should accept it. I’m the complete opposite with my own children and can’t comprehend how someone could treat their child like this. How do I cope? It eats at me. I will answer any questions in depth if it will help in understanding the situation.

  • CashewNut 🏴󠁢󠁥󠁧󠁿@lemmy.world
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    7 months ago

    You see, you come close to getting it in your first paragraph.

    Telling someone who’s hungry and can’t afford food - just eat.

    Don’t you see how callous that is? If a friend came to you and asked to talk would you just shout “speak to a therapist”?

    It’s lazy because it’s one word and obvious. It’s callous because it makes no attempt to help the person.

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      7 months ago

      I told my pharmacist that I had been feeling low energy and lethargic ever since starting adderall and asked if she had any suggestions. She said I needed to eat more food, and suggested I use MyFitnessPal to track my calories and make sure I was getting enough.