It’s painfully obvious that the Lemmy population is primarily men.
Frustrating.
edit: to save my sanity, I choose believe that the majority of comments here are trolling. Y’all cannot genuinely be this dense.
I wanted to talk with other women about this to get more clarity and it turns into…this. Damn.
I was also a nerd in school. I still am, but I was one then too. The “ew no” was a big thing for me to get over, but that is the biggest fear most guys have with putting themselves out there.
I also try to remember that a woman’s biggest fear is being raped and/or murdered. If I keep that in mind it is easier for me to give them easier outs when I asked them out. I’m married now, so I don’t know about current dating trends. I think a little empathy could go a long way though.